I came to face the difficult and challenging prospect that – I had no idea how to be happy, and I was bashing my head against a brick wall – I was lost and confused.
I later discovered I had a huge amount of fear, and a deep sense of insecurity – I had to cling to every ounce of outside validation and approval that I could find, living in desperate fear of rejection.
I got by on charm and warmth – “got by” really is appropriate.
My relationships were crumbling around me at the same time.
Luckily I discovered some answers and I spent four or five years rebuilding the relationship I had with myself and the relationship I had with others.
I had to crawl out of the emotional cave I’d built to protect myself, and learn how to allow others to see and accept me as I was – not as I thought I “should” be.
I learnt a huge amount about behaviour – why we respond to events and people as we do – and what is at the root of that responding – that constant reacting to life – like a pinball being bashed around.
I learnt what the foundation of a good relationship looks like and how one develops that relationship.
It took a long time to unlearn all the unhelpful things I’d picked up to protect myself from
As I came out of this hole I wanted to apply what I had learnt in my work – the early Pathway was a revelation as we started to apply it – I quickly realised it needed tweaking and developing – but I kept rolling it out and the response we had was consistent every time – people loved it – managers loved it, the staff loved it, senior leaders loved it.
We’d opened the book – we’d been clear about what was expected and what good looks like and we held people accountable to that in an open, transparent, and consistent manner.
This then opened up opportunities to start teaching about behaviour – to start building emotional awareness, to start teaching about good communication, to start educating people about the general emotional state of most people – and how that applies to them.
We saw less conflict, we saw higher engagement – in numerous cases that was dramatic and instant – we saw better performance – we saw people drop out of roles, move sideways, or leave who didn’t want to be held accountable – they were finding it too difficult here – the system could no longer be manipulated.
But we didn’t get angry – we didn’t bang fists – we just kept applying sound principles, and kept upping the game, all the while, being clear about what was expected and what good looks like.
I loved it.
Finally – I was able to apply what had transformed my life in a way that others could understand and apply in the workplace.
I re-engineered the whole thing.
To stand on stronger foundations.
This site is the next evolution of the work I did – in it you will discover a programme that will provide both behavioural change and practical change – both people thinking differently and acting differently, it will give them both knowledge, skills, and experience and coach them as they apply these things to create healthier, more accountable teams.